Sunday, September 6, 2015

One Year Later

          One year ago today was my first full day in Turkey. That was back when I had absolutely no idea what I was getting myself into. I had no idea how hard it would be and no idea how amazing it would be. I was standing at the start line with 10 months stretching out in front of me and no idea what to expect. 
          My year in Turkey exceeded every one of my expectations and taught me some of the most important lessons I've learned to date. And it was by far the greatest experience of my life so far. 
          I can't believe that my journey started a year ago and that I have been home for almost two months. I must say that my trip through readjustment has been much harder than I ever expected. I never knew how much I could miss a place that I only discovered a year ago and the life that I built myself there. I adopted a lot of very Turkish habits while I was gone and those haven't always meshed well with an American life. School is so much harder than I imagined it would be, but there is a lot that has been really great since I've returned home. 
          I've reunited with all my friends and family. I've visited a few colleges and got some ideas of what I may want for the next 4 years of my life. I've started my senior year and gotten to partake in some of our senior traditions. I've restarted cross country running and even had my first meet yesterday. I've volunteered at the arrival orientation for AFS students coming to my area. 
          So even though it has been a major struggle to readjust to American life, it's also been a joy. I will forever remember my time abroad but now it's time for the next chapter of my life. I think I will keep blogging occasionally but I don't know how often. So thank you to everyone who use reading this and who followed along the whole time I was gone! Görüşürüz!

Friday, July 3, 2015

To Live Will Be an Awfully Big Adventure - Peter Pan

          Ten months ago today, I left the only home I had ever known and started on the crazy adventure that was this year. And tomorrow, I will leave my new home here. I've always known deep down that eventually this year would end and I would go home. But when you are experiencing your first days in your new country and you have ten months left, it seems like you have forever. But then, somehow, you find yourself sitting where I am, with ten months behind you and just days left. 
          Physically, I am ready to go. My bags are packed, presents have been bought, goodbyes have been said. But I know that I will never truly be ready to leave this place. Just as I wasn't ready to leave home ten months ago, I'm not ready to leave my new home. But I don't think anyone is every really ready to do anything. If we stayed waiting around to be ready, we would never do anything. And so, the time has come for me to go. I know that my time in Turkey isn't over. This part of my life in Turkey is ending; the part where I go to school and live with a family and get to live a real life here. But Turkey will always be home to me, just as much as the U.S. is. I know I will come back here, and I can't wait for the day when I do. 
          This year has been the absolute hardest thing I have ever done. But it has also been the most amazing thing I have ever gotten to experience. I will miss so much about this year, from the food to speaking Turkish to the skyline filled with mosques to the buses to my family to the organized chaos that is my daily life here. I will miss it all. But these things will always be a part of me. This year and this experience will remain a huge part of who I am for the rest of my life because this time has changed who I am and how I see the world. 
          For so long, my return has been so hyphothetical to me that I haven't put much thought into what it will be like to go back to the life I had before this year. But as it's gotten closer and closer, I've started to think more and more about it. And I am honestly so scared. I'm scared that the space I left will no longer fit the person I have become. But I think that going home will be the next big adventure.
          With every goodbye comes the start of the next adventure. When I said goodbye to everything I have ever known in the U.S. I started this wild ride. And I know another great adventure awaits me back at home. Because life truly is an awfully big adventure. 
          And so, I say goodbye. This will be the last time I post from Turkey. It won't be the end of this blog, but I don't know when I will next sit down to write. Thank you to everyone who read this during this past year and saw me through the twists and turns of the roller coaster that was this year. Goodbye for now! Thank you!


Tuesday, June 30, 2015

My Turkey Bucket List Revisited

          Before I came to Turkey, I created a bucket list of all the things I'd like to do while I was in Turkey. My year was made up of much more than these items, but these things created some very wonderful memories from this year. So here is my bucket list revisited. 

1. Become fluent in Turkish. - I wouldn't say I am fluent but I am more than conversational. I am also so proud of how far I have come in this language so I count this one as a success. 
2. Become a part of my community in Turkey. - Between volunteering at the old folks home, the preschool, going to school, and just living life, I have definetely created a spot for myself in this community. 
3. Make close friends. - I will truly miss my friends from here so much because they have become such an important part of my life. They were the ones who helped me all through this year and I count them as some of closest friends. 
4. Visit Pamukkale. - I went last weekend. A very cool experience. 
5. Go to a Turkish bath. - I've never felt so clean as I did after I went. 
6. Visit Cappadocia. - A truly amazing experience and truly incredible views. 
7. Visit Istanbul (especially the Hagia Sophia and the Blue Mosque). - Visited the city twice and got to go to both of those places. 
8. Become close friends with the other YES Abroad and AFS students. - The other YES Abroad students are basically family now. 
9. Learn to love Turkish coffee. - I love it so much. 
10. Get homesick. - Many times. 
11. Get over it. - Just as many times. 
12. Visit a mosque. - Several times. 
13. Get used to hearing the call to prayer every day. - I actually can no longer remember what not hearing the call to prayer everyday is like. 
14. Visit the other YES Abroad students in their host cities. - I visited the others in Samsun. 
15. Cook my host family American food. - I didn't cook for my host family but I did cook American Thanksgiving and Christmas cookies so I will count this one. 
16. Try some crazy Turkish foods. - Brain, liver, stomach, intestine. I didn't like them, but I tried them. 
17. Visit the beach. - On several occasions. 
18. Visit the roman ruins at Ephesus. - Another truly amazing experience. 
19. Join some sort of extra-curricular. - Sadly, there's not much in the way of extra-curriculars here so this didn't happen. 
20. Volunteer. - As much as I could. 
21. Take lots of photos/videos. - Ive taken more than 2000 photos to date. 
22. Keep up this blog. - I think I posted pretty regularly. 
23. Send letters to family/friends and other YES Abroad students. - I always meant to do this but I just never got around to it. 
24. Drink lots of Turkish tea. - Considering I can't think of a single day these past 10 months when I didn't drink a few cups of tea, I'm going to say yes for this one. 
25. Buy some traditional Turkish clothes. - I've bought many Turkish scarves and a dress that brides to be wear for their henna nights. 

It's been a crazy 10 months and as they come to an end, it's crazy to look back on all the things I did. I did 23 out of the 25 things I had on this list and I did so many other things I had never even thought of before I came here. Thanks for reading!

Friday, June 19, 2015

My YES Abroad Capstone Project

          One of the requirements for the YES Abroad program is to complete a capstone project. This project is pretty much completely open-ended and we were giving great freedom in choosing what we wanted to do our project about. The main goal is to pick a part of our host country's culture that was interesting to us or some part of our experience here that was important to us and explore it more fully. I decided to compare preschools in the US and here in Turkey and discuss how culture effects education. It is kind of long, but I thought I would share it here in case anyone would like to read it.

Children Learn What They Live

How Culture Influences Preschool Education


Early childhood education is one of the most important stages of education, as it is the first formal education a child receives and sets them on the path towards future success, both in education and in life. This remains true throughout various cultures. However, the education itself will inevitably vary in different cultures, as cultural standards vary. Behavioral ideals for children often differ greatly based on the culture and these differences can be seen easily in a classroom setting. The goals for the child’s education and style in which classrooms are conducted show many similarities, although contrasts can be found as well. One of the most obvious demonstrations of a cultural difference can be found in the amount of responsibility children are given for their own education, versus how much of that responsibility is put on the adults in the child’s life. Cultural differences manifest themselves in every part of life, however, the attitudes and ideas surrounding education and children is one of the most obvious places to see them.
            Standards of behavior for children vary greatly by culture and these variations can be easily seen in schools. From the beginning of my time in Turkey, it was quite obvious to me that the expectations for Turkish children’s behavior is very different than that for American children. In Turkish culture, it is rare to punish children and they are generally allowed to do most anything they want and the parents will not see a problem with it. Coming from American culture, I felt that the children I saw were incredibly badly behaved. As time has passed, I’ve come to understand how this is related to the culture here, and while it still often catches me off guard, I understand why they behave the way they do. These behavioral differences were especially clear to me after I started helping out at a local preschool. It seemed to me that the behavioral problems I saw there were greater than most that I could remember seeing in the US, but that the “punishments” usually only amounted to them being told not to do it again. At most, they would be told to sit a little apart from the rest of the group. When I asked a teacher, they told me that they don’t believe in punishing their children. The separations seemed to only last for a few minutes until a teacher stopped telling them to go back to their chair and they wandered back to the main group. In my mother’s classroom, punishments, usually being isolated from others for some amount of time appropriate to what the child did were given out if a child was hurting or disturbing other children or if they were damaging property. The same idea was used in the Turkish classroom, with children being put apart from the rest of the group if they were disrupting the class, but the punishment was less strictly enforced and therefore less effective. This was probably the most obvious difference between these two systems of education to me, while the goals of the education itself remained fairly similar.
            Education is either helped or hindered by the environment in which the learning occurs, and, while the classrooms in Turkey and the ones in America had some differences, they both were effective learning environments. There are many different aspects that create a good environment for learning in which children will better be able to accomplish their learning goals. I found many similarities between the classrooms I have worked in in the US and in Turkey. In both countries, the classrooms are decorated with projects the children have done and various other posters and pictures that further the children’s learning. As playing is just as important to a young child’s learning as structured class activities, there are also games to be played at appropriate times. Games had to be shared between children to teach them the value of sharing and there were many different ways to use the different objects around the classroom. However, children were rarely allowed to bring toys from home in the classroom in America, while it was common practice in the classroom in Turkey. Field trips are also common in both countries as a learning tool in which the children can very actively participate in their own learning. Encouraging physical activity on a regular basis was another similarity between the two countries. In the American classroom, the children went to PE several times a week and had recesses every day to play outside, while the Turkish children had dance classes and were also given several opportunities each day to play outside. The biggest difference I observed was in the use of technology as a teaching and learning tool. In the Turkish classroom, technology was used a considerable amount, whereas it was used very conservatively in the classroom in America. In Turkey, they often play songs and various learning videos as a way to entertain the children as well as one way of teaching the lessons. In the classroom in America, technology was used very sparingly as a teaching tool because it was believed that the children would learn better by doing an activity related to the subject matter rather than just seeing someone else do the activity on a screen. Technology was especially widely used in the children’s English classes in Turkey, which start at 3 years old. Preschool English lessons and songs mainly made up their English classes, an interesting change from the American classroom, where children rarely begin to learn a foreign language so early in life. The classroom environments in both countries were very effective and while they had a few differences in teaching styles, the main parts remained the same.
            American culture places great emphasis on children growing up and accepting more and more responsibility while they are still quite young and continuing to take even more as they get older. Turkish culture views remaining dependent on parents longer as the best way of staying close to your family, which is very important to the Turkish people. This means most children stay home with their families for much longer than an American child would. These differences in the expectations for the children’s future clearly affected the goals of their education, even at this age. In the American classroom, children were already being taught how to be responsible for their own things, including homework, and being given a wide range of choices in their days, from choosing their own library book to what activity they wanted to do. This is so they could begin to learn how making certain choices affects them and teaching them to have the responsibility for their own belongings, and in the future, their own education. For example, if they forgot to bring their library book to return, they would sit at a separate table while their classmates were able to pick out new books. Children often did better remembering to bring their books when they knew they wouldn’t get to participate in the same activities as their classmates if they didn’t. By giving these types of responsibilities to children beginning at such a young age, the goal of them becoming independent at an earlier age in is more easily accomplished. In Turkey, family is the most important thing, and children often remain living at home much longer than children in the US do. Responsibility and independence are not as important to the Turks, and are therefore not pushed as much in early education. The children I interacted with tended to have fewer choices when it came to their activities and were given fewer responsibilities in the classroom and in their education. While the main goals of the education in both countries was to start the children on their path to continued learning and the desire to seek out their own education, the amount of responsibility and independence taught was very different between the two countries.
            Parental involvement in a child’s education is viewed as being vitally important in both countries. A child’s parents are their first teachers and they are the ones who continue educating their children outside of school so their level of participation is very high in both countries. While parental involvement was more obvious to me in the American classroom where parents would regularly come into the class and work with the students, there was still a high level of contribution from parents in the Turkish classroom. Many came and spent time with the students in their child’s class and were expected to continue the learning with their child at home, through reading and other educational activities, much as parents are in the US. Parents are also highly involved in the classroom during field trips and time spent as a class away from the regular classroom in both countries. Teachers in both Turkey and the US felt that parents need to be highly involved in helping their child with their learning, both at home and in the classroom.
            While differences abounded between the styles of teaching and the methods of keeping order in American classrooms and in Turkish ones, the most important things remained the same. Teachers in both countries want to teach their children a love of learning and a desire to learn for themselves without the pushing of others. Turkey takes a more relaxed-seeming approach when it comes to their early childhood education, but with a far greater emphasis on learning foreign languages and interacting with the other students. The American classroom tended to place more importance on the learning of proper behavior and self-control, while also becoming more independent in one’s choices and education. Most of the differences between the two classrooms seemed to manifest themselves because of the significant cultural differences, especially those surrounding young children. The learning that young children do is some of the most important that will happen in their lives, and while teachers in Turkey and teachers in America had different approaches when it came to how their children would be educated, the goals of life-long learning and growth were the same in both countries.

Sunday, June 14, 2015

My Last Day of School

          This last Friday was my last day of school here in Turkey. It was my last day of junior year and my last day of school as a student at Adnan Menderes. I spent so much time at school during this last year that the idea that tomorrow I'm not going to get up and walk there with my host sister and have another normal school day still has not registered with me. School was where I made my wonderful friends, where I learned Turkish, where I laughed and where I smiled. I am very, very sad that my time at Adnan Menderes has ended but I am so thankful for everything going to school there provided me, and as far as last days go, I had a pretty great one. 
          Me and some of my friends spent the first half of the day sitting in the school gardens and talking as all the students eagerly awaited receiving their report cards after lunch. After lunch, our class president said goodbye and we took a class picture for me to have. Everyone was standing on the tables in our classroom and we were all laughing as we took the picture and it reminded why I loved my class. There was always laughter and smiles from my classmates and I will miss that so much. By that point, I was crying and had to start saying goodbye to my classmates. After lots of hugs, many tears, and promises to come back one day soon, we went outside for our last flag ceremony of the year. 
         At the beginning of our year, Priya and I got up in front of the school and introduced ourselves during the ceremony. On Friday, we got up in front of everyone once again and said goodbye. We were marveling over how far we have come since that day at the beginning of the year as we waited to give our speeches. On that day back in September, we were so scared and our shaking voices were barely able to stumble through a basic introduction. But this time, we were able to thank our school for everything they had done for us and we weren't scared at all. It was a really wonderful moment for me and helped me to realize just how far I have come in these last 9 1/2 months. 
          After school ended, the goodbyes continued and we had a little meeting with our principal and some of our teachers where we talked and ate a cake that they had bought for us. It was really nice to talk with them and thank them for everything this year. It was a very nice ending to a sad but wonderful day. 


With two of my best friends at school. 


11-A. The best class I ever could have asked for. 


Me and Priya with our celebratory cake. 

          With the end of school, it really sunk in that my exchange year is coming to an end. I have three weeks left in Turkey and I can't comprehend how little time remains. But I have every intention of thoroughly enjoying the time I have left and I will certainly keep you all up to date on my last few weeks. As always thanks for reading! 

Monday, June 8, 2015

You Know You're An Exchange Student in Turkey When . . . .

          After so long living here, I have thought of a few ways to know you are an exchange student in Turkey. So in honor of my 9 month anniversary here in Turkey which passed last Friday, here is my list.

1. You speak fluent Turklizce and sentences like "We are just going to gez around" and "Let's kaç!" make total sense to you.
2. You feel weird if you haven't had at least a few cups of tea on any given day.
3. Same goes for pieces of bread.
4. You have developed a bit of an obsession with buying the silk scarves they sell at the bazaar. (I've already bought 6 and have no intention of stopping.)
5. You justify every purchase you make with, "Well, it's only $7 so it's ok." (The exchange rate is amazing for us right now)
6. You have realized that class is a completely acceptable time to do pretty much anything, including naps, gossiping, and catching up on the latest episodes of your favorite TV show.
7. You have accepted the fact that your host mom is never going to allow you to sleep with your hair wet. (Turkish people think you will get sick)
8. It's not weird to you to wear shoes around the house, but you never wear the ones you wore outside.
9. As soon as you get home, you change into sweatpants and t-shirts and you love it.
10. Yogurt on literally everything is normal to you.
11. You never go to the bathroom when you are out because you are too cheap to pay for them.
12. You have accepted that you will never get a drink with ice in it, but it still always makes you a little sad to pour your lukewarm water into a glass without ice.
13. You have mastered the art of crossing the street and not getting run over.
14. You never go more than a week without eating döner or pide.
15. It no longer weirds you out to see pictures and statues of Atatürk literally everywhere.
16. Going to the bazaar is one of your favorite ways to spend an afternoon.
17. You no longer get offended when the first thing people comment on is how much weight you've gained.
18. Your arms are way tanner than your legs because you are always wearing long pants.
19. You get really angry when English words don't follow vowel harmony.
20. You still have no idea what most of the food you are eating is because you don't know the English words for all the ingredients. 
21. You are a master of your city's bus system. 
22. Your social media is more in Turkish than it is in English
23. You can tell what time it is based on how many calls to prayer you have heard that day.
24. You are an expert at mentally converting between kilos and pounds, kilometers and miles, and Celsius and Fahrenheit.
25. You have found at least one little Turkish village that you are seriously considering running away to.
26. You can no longer remember what a city without mosques and minarets sticking up everywhere looks like.
27. The thought of leaving Turkey makes you want to cry.
28. But you know you will be back again soon because Turkey is your home now too!

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

May

          The month of May was my busiest month yet and was so wonderful for so many reasons. 
          I visited the ancient city of Ephesus with one of the other YES Abroad students. Seeing the ruins was absolutely amazing and I couldn't believe I was finally getting to see it in real life instead of just in pictures. I also had a really exciting moment when I met a few exchange students from Poland and was able to help them talk with another girl on the train by translating from English into Turkish. It was a truly wonderful moment to be able to help others make connections in the language I have been trying so hard to learn. 


Me and Elsa in front of one of the most famous ruins at Ephesus.  

          My host family celebrated Mother's Day with a trip to the beach town of Kuşadası to spend the day with the whole family. My host dad made mangal, Turkish barbecue, and we all laughed and ate and enjoyed our time together. 
          I was able to visit Istanbul with my classmates to tour colleges and see the city. It was interesting to visit some different colleges and see what some of the differences between American colleges and the colleges here were. We also got to see some of the most famous sites of Turkey including the Blue Mosque, the Hagia Sophia, and the Basilica Cistern. I also got to spend some quality time with my classmates which I am so glad for as my departure date draws ever closer.


With friends at our restaurant on the Bosphorus Strait. 


Experiencing the wonder of the Blue Mosque. 


With all my wonderful classmates. 

          I have gotten into a routine of volunteering at a local preschool. It is always such a joy to be able to help out the teachers there and to get to talk with the different children. 
          Most recently, I was able to go to my school's graduation ceremony. With the exception of the performance of my city's traditional dance, it was very similar to American graduations. I loved seeing the new class of graduates celebrate and to join in the excitement of my class as they became seniors.